I just came back from a three-day retreat in the jungles of Costa Rica. It's such a magical place and the things that happen there in only two weeks really shook me. My belief systems about things, the way I am, the way I act, my habit patterns. One workshop I went to was about finding inner peace. I think we all could use a little bit more inner peace. I'm trying to shift my habit pattern of anxiety because I'm used to working hard and performing and then being in stress mode and anxious of when the next contract will come. Through this workshop, it was a big revelation that back in the day when I first started my company, for the first five years, I had anxiety about, will I actually have enough contracts to pay my bills? I had, I did, but for five years, I was in that stress, and then one day in meditation, I just had this epiphany that if the universe or other people have helped me for five years, why wouldn’t I trust that the universe will continue to take care of me? It was like this huge weight was lifted off and I was able to realize, that I've been in business for five years and those first five years of business are usually really tough. This helped me to have TRUST.
At this workshop, I asked, so now where's this anxiety coming from? At the beginning, it was lack of trust, fear of scarcity. I've now created this dream life that I always wanted and I've been able to create a business where I can travel and I work only a few hours a day. My brain is very comfortable with the feeling of anxiety though, and so it has created this attachment to this perfect life. I now need to work on detachment. This doesn’t mean I can’t love my home, my company, my partner, my dog, but I don't need to be attached to any of them. If I lose my house, it's my dream home, but I trust I'll find another dream home. If I let go and sell my company, I know I will have other projects to do. I’m already working on this project now; helping entrepreneurs really connect to their intuition and spirituality in business.
Anxiety comes a lot within me when I'm lacking trust, lacking trust in others, especially lacking trust in myself. Can I handle this situation? Can I handle that emergency? I'm not good with physical emergencies, so I lack trust that if someone's injured, then it's on me and I will panic and be unable to manage the situation. Can I trust the universe? So, I work on trust. I work on detachments.
I am also working on instilling more childlike wonder and excitement for life. When I was younger, I would just be so excited and now I don't call things exciting anymore. I say I have anxiety about it instead. The feelings butterflies of excitement and anxiety are actually quite similar. I need to learn to rephrase. Tony Robbins always talks about rephrasing. I remember when I woke up tired I would always use the expression, “I feel like I've been hit by a bus.” Yikes, what a profound and powerful sentence when in reality I was just a little bit sleepy. Tony Robbins has taught me to rephrase more. People say words are your magical wand and whatever you say you can manifest.
JADI KINDRED is the founder of Accent Unique Inc. Since 2011, Jadi has helped hundreds of business professionals and entrepreneurs from all industries improve their confidence speaking English. Her mission is to inspire greatness in others. One way of doing this is by her helping people become more culturally aware through communication and understanding. She is passionate about travel, spending time in nature, constant learning, and growing her company. She is a native of Saskatchewan, but in 2008 moved with only two suitcases to Quebec, where she began her new life and journey of entrepreneurship.