When was the last time you spoke your truth? Speaking your truth is the most powerful tool and I talk a lot about this in my book, Intuitive Business Connections. I have a whole chapter on how I once had this radical honesty workshop at my home, where we had to get really raw and real with complete strangers. Talking about our most intimate secrets, anything we're ashamed of and anything that we don't want other people to know. After expressing all of this, I realized how much weight and energy withholding is. It is just so liberating to express myself, and I didn't judge what other’s biggest secrets were. The secret I talked about was just so small (like many of the others), but it was something I thought I shouldn't say out load. That takes so much energy to withhold what you really want to say.
I'm curious in your life, are there things that you don't want to admit to others at your workplace, to your family, to yourself? There are so many layers of being a human and sometimes we don't even really realize what we're hiding until we consciously go into a workshop and see. It could be something I am too scared to share with my partner or confess something I've always wanted to do or even a dream of mine. When we don’t name a dream that you've always had, I believe this is dishonesty with ourselves and others. I feel it really limits where we can go and our potential in the world.
With some of my friends and with my partner and my family, I first ask permission if can be radically honest with them. Some people don't want that, but with the friends I choose to have in my life, I want to have an authentic relationship with them. It’s confessing when you did this, I felt hurt. Or it could be little things, such as I feel sad that you didn't show up to my gathering. It can be anything, but it's things we often don't say or admit to others. We keep it inside and think it's not a big deal or I don't want to make it a big deal. I don't want to get into a fight, but when you simply honour your own experience, it’s hard for someone else to be mad.
It's important to always use “I” statements. I can't take anything personally, even though I tend to be very sensitive if they consciously communicate their needs authentically. It’s almost impossible to be 100% authentic all the time, and you may not have the energy for it on a particular day, which is normal. If we consciously say, “Today I want to be as authentic and use my voice for truth, the truth towards myself, and truth towards others” where could your life be? What would happen if you admitted to the job promotion you want or talk to the person you have a crush on instead of avoiding them. That was absolutely terrifying for me when I was single, that I just chose to stay at home on Saturday nights and read a book instead of sharing my feelings towards them. I was in my 30s before realizing that I needed to be authentic and real if I really want to find a loving relationship.
It's about asking, “What can I truly have?” What can we lose by being radically honest with ourselves? We may lose toxic relationships, jobs that that we hate, we may distance ourselves from family members who don't let us live our true authentic expression and creativity and our desires. We'll lose things that don't bring any value to our life. I invite you today to think about some of the things that you've pushed down so far that you don't even realize needs to be spoken. I encourage you make a list make a list of things that you haven't said, and to just freestyle write everything that you want to say to others. I encourage you this week to go and speak one truth, one truth that is important for you with someone on this list.
I want to hear your comments and see if the relationship was transformed. Did it bring you closer? Did it dissolve? Was it heart opening? Was it terrifying? I don't know what your experience will be but anytime I've been super honest with myself and with others, it has only ever resulted in beautiful connections and more energy for me. It brings more clarity for the others to know what's happening in my world. I assume a lot that they should know how I'm feeling, but they have no idea unless I voice it. That's my suggestion this week. Please share this video, like it, and let me know how sharing your truth has helped you in your life.
JADI KINDRED is the founder of Accent Unique Inc. Since 2011, Jadi has helped hundreds of business professionals and entrepreneurs from all industries improve their confidence speaking English. Her mission is to inspire greatness in others. One way of doing this is by her helping people become more culturally aware through communication and understanding. She is passionate about travel, spending time in nature, constant learning, and growing her company. She is a native of Saskatchewan, but in 2008 moved with only two suitcases to Quebec, where she began her new life and journey of entrepreneurship.