When was the last time you congratulated yourself? I work with entrepreneurs and just this morning I spoke with a young entrepreneur who is very career driven and very focused on being the best that she can be. She has these big goals and then she has a high standard for herself, like most entrepreneurs do. I had to remind her that it's very easy to be hard on ourselves and to remember all of the things we did wrong in a day. Little errors we can easily get frustrated with, but I wanted to remind her as well as myself when was the last time I actually patted myself on the back. To physically give myself a pat because I signed a new contract. To simply stop and appreciate that. I tend to just take these things for granted as the years go by, as I'm learning to trust more and more in the universe. The whole lesson of stopping and appreciating what you have and acknowledging what you've done. Pat yourself on the back doesn’t have to be only for financial goals, but it could be small daily things such as today I chose to not take that Coca Cola. Instead, I chose a really fresh fruit smoothie and to acknowledge my choice to nourish my body instead of something that will deplete my energy.
Being an entrepreneur, I feel we need to be out of our comfort zones, and just that unto itself is a huge success to step into the unknown. I really encourage you to start acknowledging your small steps.
I used to be very impatient, and I wanted everything done yesterday. I’m learning to calm down and to be more in the flow and listen to myself. Just recently, I started taking naps, which was super against my beliefs about myself and what society says in North America. I had to make that into homework, literal homework to say this part of the day I'm going to relax my nervous system. I'm going to relax my body. I'm going to relax my mind and then made it into almost as much of an important task as any other task I would do in my day. How often as employees do you request these emotional days off? Our society only allows you to have physical sick days, but not emotional sick days.
I often remind people I work with, all we have is our energy especially if we're self- employed. People want to work with us and they choose us, and if your energy is depleted, or your mood or you have brain fog or anything that is not optimal in your life, it will reflect in business. When I work with people, it's not only financial goals, but about the different pillars of life, such as health and spirituality. Are you at your optimal energy level to be able to achieve your financial goals? This young entrepreneur, she has big financial goals, but I asked, “Are you willing to be sick for that goal? Are you willing to lose your romantic relationship? Are you willing to lose friends? What have you sacrificed and what have you almost sabotaged in the way to get there?”
As the years progressed, I asked, “Am I full of integrity with my own word to myself? When I put something on my calendar, such as go for a walk in nature, do some yoga, meditate.
Do I always honour the commitments I made to myself? When I don't, that means I'm a person who lacks integrity. I value integrity a lot and I don't ever want to be a person who lacks integrity. If I say, I'm going to take one hour to myself as a break this afternoon, and I go into emails or I do whatever I do in business, then I start lacking trust in myself. If I can't even keep my word to myself, for little things, then subconsciously, I'm telling myself, I can't trust myself for the bigger things. And I think that's all we really have in life.
I'm really big on words, and what we say to others and to ourselves. The people I surround myself are for full integrity. I would not even want to have friends or be around people who I can't trust or who say things that I don't believe will manifest. I want to be around people who really take their word seriously. It doesn't have to be strict or massive things. It could be simple things like wanting to take a nap every day. I really respect someone who says that and then does it. To be gentle with ourselves along the way. That's the message I just really feel called to share with you today.
We have many goals in our life. We may have physical health, mental, spiritual, financial, goal that you have, I encourage you to play the Seven Step Why Game. Ask yourself seven time why you want a specific goal until the until reason is really revealed.
JADI KINDRED is the founder of Accent Unique Inc. Since 2011, Jadi has helped hundreds of business professionals and entrepreneurs from all industries improve their confidence speaking English. Her mission is to inspire greatness in others. One way of doing this is by her helping people become more culturally aware through communication and understanding. She is passionate about travel, spending time in nature, constant learning, and growing her company. She is a native of Saskatchewan, but in 2008 moved with only two suitcases to Quebec, where she began her new life and journey of entrepreneurship.