Are you happy? Have you ever asked yourself that question? Really sat down and asked if you are truly happy? I remember 10 years ago I had a partner who, when he met my grandmother, that was the first question he asked. And she will never forget him because she has never been asked that question in all of her life. She still talks about that question. I think it shook her to her core, because she didn't even know how to answer him. Sometimes I think we're afraid to ask others or we're even afraid to ask ourselves because we don't want to know the answer. Before we can make any life changes, we need to first know where are we are at this moment? How do you rate your relationships at this moment, your career, your spirituality, your finances? All of that has an impact. I'm curious and I encourage you to first ask yourself are you happy?
Our society I feel is very backwards. We value the GDPs instead of the global human happiness factor in some countries like Bhutan, which is like one of the happiest countries in the world. What if our governments and our societies started to value that people are fulfilled in their country? To ask are they happy? We don't have to wait for any external outside forces to ask us that though. We can ask that to ourselves today!
I want to quote Barbara Marx. Hubbard, who is a known visionary. When she asks who is happy, in her experience, the happy ones are actualizing their creative gifts for the service to others. She also says, if you have everything that modern day civilization has to offer, and you're anywhere where that capacity for individual expression exists in its full service, but you do not also have deeper yearning to express uniqueness for the good of the others, then you will be naturally depressive. You will have a natural depression and a sense of malaise. That is a signal that something more wants to be expressed. She talks about how we get attached to our roles, such as stay at home mom, father, busy business executive, sister, or daughter. We get kind of trapped into these roles and we don't know how to get out of them and express our true uniqueness and maybe the gifts that we are really meant to share.
We're all drawn to different things. I like music. I wish I could be a musician. I wish I could play an instrument, but I'm just not as gifted as someone else who can create this beautiful music so naturally and that's okay. I may have other gifts and I may be drawn to other things. It's about being clear on our unique gifts and to let that creative expression flourish. If we all lived authentically and honoured that we are more than just these qualities that we have put in this restricted box. How much more fully we could serve others? Something that is so natural and easy for you, that you just don't even think is a gift can touch and help someone so profoundly.
I love to go to these weekly chanting group gatherings. And the artists are so magical to me. I remember telling them they need to create a recording because people need to hear this. For them, they just did it as a meditation at home for themselves and their weekly gatherings that were by donation. I wanted them to be able to share these gifts to the world. It is so easy and natural for them. I think those are the times when we need to ask, “What would I do completely for free and never ask money for”, but then to actually create life’s work around that.
There's nothing wrong with money. It is just energy, just a transaction of energy. If you can do something for free, but then ask for money as a way reciprocating that gratitude someone has for what you offer. You're then able to live in this creative flow for the rest of your life and you never actually have to work as they say. The world needs your creative expression, and the world needs more people in tuned with their creative expression, in tune with their own gifts. So again, I encourage you to sit and really take a moment to ask yourself if you are happy. Ask your friends or if they're happy and have them ask you in return and see if things bubble up.
If there is some blocked energy, lower energy or heavy energy, ask yourself how can I let that go and release that? The more we ask ourselves questions the more things can unravel. That's what a coach does. A coach doesn't do things for you, a coach is there to help you find things that will make get to the next level. Whatever goal you have, the coach is not there to judge you for any of your goals. They're just there to help you find them, to discover them, to help you to be accountable to make the small steps. Often, we don't stop and really ask ourselves the important questions that coaches are trained to ask.
JADI KINDRED is the founder of Accent Unique Inc. Since 2011, Jadi has helped hundreds of business professionals and entrepreneurs from all industries improve their confidence speaking English. Her mission is to inspire greatness in others. One way of doing this is by her helping people become more culturally aware through communication and understanding. She is passionate about travel, spending time in nature, constant learning, and growing her company. She is a native of Saskatchewan, but in 2008 moved with only two suitcases to Quebec, where she began her new life and journey of entrepreneurship.